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Resources I’m using for motivation, creation and transforming relationships

April 2, 2017

A few years ago you would have found me sitting on a bus with white Apple spec headphones in and commuting several hours a day to and from the city. I had a whole lot of time up my sleeve and there was only so much scrolling Pinterest and Instagram that could be done in 90 minutes a day (and that was on a good day).  

Hours of my life turned into making my way through podcasts and books, all the while evolving my curiosity for human growth and potential.

Today, with those commutes behind me (which has now become a more balanced 10 minute drive), I still draw inspiration in the same way – not only to grow and challenge my own thinking, but to support those who I serve through my work in leading women to transformation.

This year I chose to reduce my reading list considerably (to less than 5 books), while others layer book over book, month after month, I felt it necessary to put the breaks on consumption in an effort to turn up the volume on my own voice in this space. Less influenced writing and more truth telling.

Potent honesty from the heart.

So I invite you to dive into this list, but with one request, that you take it slowly. Read and listen with intent to learn and then go into the world and implement that which truly resonates.

Books I’m reading:

The School Of Greatness by Lewis Howes 

This book started my year in style and even had my husband attempting to claim it as his own. This book literally catapulted me into action, and saw us make some radical changes to our wider team – John read ‘everyone needs a coach’ so he went out and got one – true story, I love that men just DO.  I was always a big fan of Lewis’s podcast and this book is a practical extension of that.

Read this when you need a big serving of motivation and inspiration to create a vision and a purpose driven life. Perfect for you if you are toying with the idea of starting your business, Lewis lays the foundation with his all-American boy charm. 

White Hot Truth by Danielle LaPorte

Officially the print copy of this book isn’t due out till May 2017, but you can get your hands on the audiobook when you pre-order. And well, obviously I couldn’t wait because I listened cover to cover in just 2 days.

I credit this woman’s previous books (Fire Starter Sessions and The Desire Map) as having a significant effect on the course of my life. So after seeing this woman grace the stage in Melbourne, I knew she was the real deal. She so eloquently dishes out her poetic thoughts on all things from growth, spirituality, relationships to money but won’t sugar coat the truth. In fact, you might be surprised about her ‘truth’ around the personal development industry – important words that need to be said.

Read this if you are ready to get down to the core of being human, perhaps your about to make a change and you need some reassurance that someone else has also been there. Told in a way that will leave you ready to get real about how you’re living.

How to Live a Good Life by Jonathan Fields

As you can see from the podcasts listed below, I’ve been following Jonathan Fields for a while so naturally when he puts out a book I was in. How to Live a Good Life is the curation of his own habits and the habits of his guests (as well as scientific backing) accumulated over several years of interviews.

Unlike many personal development books, it goes much deeper than productivity and creating a big life, instead he has divided life into 3 essential, measurable buckets – vitality, connection and contribution. The concept of the book is that each bucket has 10 practices, so you can make your way through the book as a challenge or picking up one habit if you feel a need to fill up a bucket. 

Read this if you’re looking for something you can pick up and put down as needed. The simplicity and care with which the habits have been selected will make it easy to transition into the bucket life!

Podcasts I’m listening to…

Listen to this for personal development, life hacking and personal stories: The Tim Ferriss Show: Favourite episodes include No. 212 2016 What I’ve learned, No.186 with Tony Robbins, No.124 with Jamie Foxx – this is one for a long car ride, the humour, stories and intellect are incredible. 

Listen to this when you need to get motivated: Inside Quest with Tom Bilyeu. Favourite guests include Lisa Nichols and Tony Robbins.

Listen to this when you need support in your relationships and want to explore your femininity more: Untame Yourself Radio with Elizabeth Dialto: Favourite guests include Philip McKernon, Alison Armstrong, Martha Beck and Nancy Levin. 

Listen or watch this when you want to get inside the mind of an entrepreneur, writer or spiritual teachers: Good Life Project with Jonathan Fields. Favourite guests include Panache Desai, Elizabeth Gilbert and Elena Brower. I also suggest going back through the Good Life Project TV files and checking out episodes with Brene Brown, Marie Forleo, Danielle LaPorte and Lewis Howes. 

Now I would love to know what you’re reading for inspiration? what book took you from on the couch to taking action in a matter of days? 

Share in the comments below and of course if you know someone that might love this list, be sure to share it with them.

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4 Simple Practices To Sharpen Your Intuition

March 16, 2017

A few weeks ago I had a Skype session with a gorgeous angel intuitive. Much of what she told me, I had already brought to fruition in the form of goals and desires in the weeks prior to our date. Which kinda shocked me, but I also had a funny feeling in my stomach that she was just confirming my own inner knowing.

However, the most illuminating thing about this experience, is that what she told me that day, had already been told to others in my family who had their own separate experiences with intuitive. Crazy huh? Or maybe not…

This got me curious about these two questions:

Is our path predetermined?

Or can we create, or choose our own destiny by using our inner guidance?

The experience I had with the intuitive, would probably leave you thinking that life is option a) – it’s predetermined.

To a certain extent maybe, but option b) has always seemed possible to me.

Today’s video is simply my observations, and stems from my curiosity.

In fact, I’ve always thought it cool that we could wake up tomorrow and begin to take the steps towards living our dream life.

You’ve possibly heard about tools like manifesting, law of attraction, affirmations – yeah?

Many of these tools come back to observing your thoughts, shifting limiting beliefs and rewiring your neural pathways – to bring in more of what you want. So this would suggest to me that we can create our own destiny. Despite the adversity we might face at times or the things that feel out of our control at times.

BUT ultimately, through these tools, we are able to change the lens through we see ourselves and the world.

This lens is the product when we embody an upward positive energy, a mind that is expanded to what’s possible, and the amount of time spent feeling stuck, sad, angry or resentful become less and less. It feels damn good when you’re in that state.

It’s all powerful stuff right?

So, then it got me thinking, how does our intuition (or our deep inner wisdom) play a part in our destiny?

Is intuition a gift we are born with or is it something we can strengthen – as we would a muscle?

Are practices like meditation one way to strengthen this muscle?

It is believed that intuition is something we all have, for some of us it is naturally stronger from a younger age.

The beautiful thing about developing your ability to listen to your intuition, is the subtle cues it provides us – that often can’t be explained through regular forms of communication like talking, reading or writing.

Intuition, I believe is an inner guidance mechanism, that allows us to lower the noise of thinking and being in our minds all the time – which I’m sure we all know well?

So if meditation is about awareness, being deeply observant – then ultimately we are creating an intimacy with ourselves.

We are deeply connected with our heart space.

I’ve seen it in my own life, that meditation is one of the quickest ways to flex this awareness muscle.

But so is the intimacy we create with our bodies.

Over time, the more you fine tune this intimacy, the body becomes a sort of barometer for when the pressure is too high or too low and we need to dial it accordingly.

This is where self care comes in.

Yep, I know I bang on a lot about this shit, but I know it is 100% the essence of maintaining our power and living our our truth.

They say ‘behind every great man is a great woman’…well I believe, behind every great human is a fully dialled in self care plan.

So in order to create the future that unfolded in my angel reading the other day, I am certain there are a couple of things that will both support and guide me towards that path, which is what I want to share with you today

//  Tuning into my body moment to moment, day to day. What do I need right now to thrive in this body so that I can create the life I want to live? What foods? What exercise? To stay up or go to sleep? This is self care.

 

//  Heart opening exercises – specific yoga poses or movement like dance that allow you to open the front of the body, move the spine in all directions and release tension.

 

//  Disconnect and get into nature. How can we truly listen to ourselves if we are always connected to our devices, even something as simple as walking barefoot creates a beautiful earth connection.

 

//  And finally, get in touch with creative side, paint, dance, do whatever gets you in the zone and forgetting about all those things you think are constraining you. I can remember what it felt like as a child to be engaged in play and everything was possible.

 

So, I have a little challenge for you.

Which of these four things are you going to incorporate into your day or week? 

If you want to put a lid on some of those thoughts that race around your head and begin to listen to the real answers that are in there, these sure fire ways will get there.

So what next? Perhaps you’ve got that niggling feeling that you’re ready to shake things up? You want to bridge that disconnect you feel with yourself or your career or your relationships?

Ready to explore what it might feel like to be 100% supported all while positively disrupting and up-levelling your life?

THIS IS ALL POSSIBLE FOR YOU.

Begin this journey today. Accept this invitation to join me on a call to learn what you can create for your life.  

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My secrets to building deeper connections

February 17, 2017

As I write this I’m sitting on a train to Sydney with my Mama having spent several days together with my beautiful sister in Newcastle.

We come together rarely these days, but we always jam-pack it with our favourite things – movies, several coffees, lunch, shopping, beach swims, cooking delicious meals, sharing stories and our wisdom with one another.

It has often struck me the significant long-term value created by these intense periods of connection. You can have a couple of hours with a girlfriend you haven’t seen in months and it fills you both up for weeks to come. We’ve gone so far as to drop people back at the airport while they’re transiting in Melbourne just to be able to connect.

Back to the daily grind and we quickly lament the ‘busyness’ of our lives. Our physical and emotional energy is spread thin (which is not the way I like my peanut butter!). This busyness leads to a pattern of forever trying to find that perfect balance in all areas of life. This is true for the food we eat, exercise we do, our careers and our relationships.

Since we’re on the topic of connection and relationships, lets go there.

I’ve come to feel strongly that the strength of our relationships isn’t defined by quantity – although social media would have us believing so.

The strength of our relationships is proportionate to the depth, not time or the number of.

To go deep can be scary, because we are suddenly unmasked, we have nowhere to hide.

Obviously there will be wide-ranging perceptions of what depth looks like from one being to another, but there are a few key things anyone can do to enhance the depth.

Begin with the belief that the eyes are a window to your soul.

Look your beloved in the eyes – our body language, especially the eyes speak volumes for our level of attention.

For a long time, I really had to practice looking people in the eyes when they spoke. I was totally uncomfortable, but this practice alone did wonders for my confidence one on one with people. As this began to grow to an audience, I took the same idea with me.

Listen to listen when you relate (this is a major practice!) and give them your undivided attention.

Even if you’re only have 10 minutes for an exchange at the end of the day with your beloved, in that 10 minutes you are 100% present with them.

As with looking someone in the eyes my awareness also increase around my lack of listening, so I practiced listening. As my man knows, I’m an effervescent woman who was great at finishing sentences in the past. Now 90% of my work as a mentor is listening.

Do you remember what it felt like the last time someone really listened to you? Did you feel loved? did it feel like time stood still?

This is what I believe abundance truly feels like. Again, depth not time.

We too often judge ourselves on the lack of time with loved ones, the lack of connection in our relationships. But rather than focus on the lack – think about what you can do to create depth?

A recent podcast from a personal development coach, highlighted three more ideas for creating deeper connections.

The first relating to the subject of time.

Create sacred dates.

If ‘lack of time’ has become a reoccurring theme for you, then I suggest planning in major chunks of time with your family, friends or partner in advance – perhaps in 3 or 6 month blocks. This could be a holiday, a day date – far enough in advanced that you build the rest of your schedule to meet that date.

The second point in the podcast related to the content of our conversations.

Dare to dream together.

This is a beautiful practice to tie in with our sacred dates. When was the last time you talked about your vision for the future, or expressed a wild idea you had while you’re in the shower? When you create space together away from the distractions of daily life, these ideas flow easily and naturally.

The third related to how we get present before we enter a situation or conversation with our closest humans. This was also a lovely piece of advice that my mother-in-law has given me in the past before going into a deep conversation with her son.

Breathe. Then enter the moment. 

Before you get out of the car, on your walk home from the train take a handful of deep breaths to ground you. Or you could even plan your conversation around a yoga class or a run to get you a little more present in your body.

If any of these ideas connect with you please let me know in the comments below.

If you’re craving to feel more connected to your loved ones, then focussing on depth by using these few little things will go a long way. Soon you will be able to feel a level of depth with not just your loved ones but even a stranger. And that’s when the real magic happens!

Beautiful, are you ready to create a deeper connection to yourself, your career and your relationships?

Good news is that connection already exists within you, sometimes it takes a little help to discover it.

You are invited to begin this journey today by joining me for a 30min coaching call to learn how we do this.

email me: hello@rubymarsh.com to BOOK

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3 ways the masculine will help you feel calm and clear

January 31, 2017

As a woman who is in the work of creating a heart-centred approach to life, I feel pulled to explore and integrate more softer, feminine inspired acts into my day to day life.  

Who doesn’t desire a hot bath at the end of a long week, an abundance of candles and sweet smelling oils? Need I say more…

What often attracts us to these feminine acts is that they often present as more ‘yin’ in nature – soft, flowing, nurturing, create a state of ease and calm. We are attracted to them because they give us a sense of balance and support to counter our busy lives and consequently busy minds.

However, what also attracts us to certain feminine acts, is their wild side, their spontaneous or chaotic nature. Think free flowing dance, to walk in nature along a path you’ve never travelled, swimming in the ocean, getting a massage, elements of a Kundalini yoga practice or perhaps creating a painting without any agenda.

We all go through periods in our life where we crave the spontaneity, the loss of inhibition or freedom that these experiences provide.

Our desire to ‘bust out’ and gain freedom from the norm is often a reaction to a feeling of being stuck in the same old routine.  

So what if I told you that you don’t have to ‘bust out’ in a major way to create change? Instead you can utilise the masculine elements of routine, planning and structure to get you through the times of feeling stuck?

Recently, I was in conversation with a friend when she reminded me that as we spend more time investigating our feminine desire for freedom, ease and flow, there is also a place for the masculine to weave it’s way in.

As a modern woman in Western society, it could feel like you are in a constant dance between the feminine and the masculine. In the past, my chosen career, the type of exercise I did, the way I dressed, had me swinging more often in the direction of the masculine.

In my experience, the pinch point occurs when you swing too far in one direction and in the case of the masculine, all this doing left me feeling disconnected with my passions, burnt out and uninspired. The natural reaction was a big ‘bust out’ moment – rebel against those masculine ways.

Leave a career, move overseas or cut off your hair – we have all been there.

If you’re not feeling inclined to rebel against the masculine just yet, here are 3 ways we can utilise it in our daily life:

#1 – Structure brings ease to daily practices or rituals.

When we overlay the masculine with practices like meditation, yoga or even simple breath work, we create structure and regularity. The masculine in action could look a little like this:

>>  You pre-set an alarm to get up at a certain time each day to do the breath work

>>  You routinely build ‘alone time’ into your weekly schedule or book our classes in advance

>>  Your yoga practice incorporates a repetitive sequence that creates consistency and familiarity in the body

>>  You power down your devices at the same time every night

>>  You don’t turn on your phone for the first 15-30mins after waking

We when we utilise this concept our actions are less reactive, or come from a place of desperately needing to ‘chill out’ or be alone.

#2 – We create consistent, small actions to move us towards our dreams.

The masculine is absolutely vital to acting on our dreams and goals. In the early stages of my mentoring program we explore the dream side, the big picture work that is endless and free flowing with creativity.

What helps make these dreams a reality, is the act of breaking them down into often small repetitive actions. Consistency is the catalyst for change and impact if we really, truly want what we want.

#3 – We know that being in that glorious ‘flow’ state, actually looks like dancing between both worlds.

If you’re feeling like you are in a constant back and forth between the chaos of the feminine and the structure of the masculine, remember that drawing on the qualities of both is actually the essence of creating balance in life.

As we move into the new year, or we find ourselves navigating something deeply personal, remember that structure can be extremely supportive and helpful in these periods.

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Finding clarity in the lessons learned – my 2016 review

January 23, 2017

When reflecting on 2016, it became clear that this part of my journey was about learning to let go, bring attention to redundant beliefs and behaviours, then reigniting the power within. If I could distill 2016 down to one word it would be AWARENESS. 

Sometimes we need this time to reflect and become full aware of how we are operating (days, months or even a year!) before we can move powerfully in a new direction.

There are definitely times for leaping into the unknown, and times for using our awareness to go a little deeper into our WHY before we leap.

It can start to get pretty emotional to be ask those ‘why, why, why’ questions all the time, but as we uncover the real reason we’re showing up to things like the gym, our job or relationship that depth in our answer is actually what creates a more authentic, heart driven life. 

And then something interesting occurred to me.

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